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Be The Leader of Your Own Life, with John Spence, RFL12

Be The Leader of Your Own Life – Episode Overview

In this episode we get great leadership advice from nationally ranked leadership thought leader, speaker and author John Spence. John helps us understand what it means to be the leader of our own lives, and how we might be able to guide, support and coach our kids to be the leaders of their lives. We talk about how to develop and trust our own internal leadership voice, how to define and live our values daily. Leadership is not about a title – leadership is about behaviors. We all have the ability and capacity to act as the leaders of our own lives – if we choose to.

Attention and Intention

In this episode our attention is on leadership – what is it, why is it important and who is a good leader. Our intention with this conversation is define the attributes of life leaders and to help us develop these attributes in ourselves and in our kids.

Photo of John Spence in the episode "Be The Leader Of Your Own" LifeMeet our Guest John Spence

His middle name should be “leadership” because he is in the top 100 Leadership Speakers, top 100 Business Thought Leaders in America, top 500 Leadership Development Experts in the World and several other exceptional accolades. He is a trusted advisor, speaker, consultant, strategist and author who has the knack for make complex things awesomely simple. As an avid reader and learner, John is always sharing the best of what he knows to help others learn how to show up to their worlds wisely, professionally and successfully.

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LifeLeader behaviors:

  1.    Leaders are self-aware. They commit the time to learn what they are good at, passionate about and what matters to them. They commit to live authentically – to trust their own voice and not be pulled and distracted by what everyone else does.
  2.    Leaders know their values. They are clear what they believe and that there are accountable to live their values and bring their best to all that they do. They then know what they stand for and can remain constant when pressured by others for behaviors not in line with their values.
  3.    Leaders are focused. They know where they are headed and regularly ask themselves this question, “Is what I am going to do right now, going to take me one step closer to my focus or direction?” They are adaptable to modify their plans for change when needed and to stay on course.

How to help your kids be the leaders of their lives:

  1.    Be the leader of YOUR life to model the behavior; our kids learn more from what we do than what we say.
  2.    Hold your kids accountable for their actions, behaviors and impact.
  3.    Regularly discuss leadership (plenty of examples in the news each day); learn from those who are both excellent and poor leadership examples.
  4.    Encourage them to journal about what they want in their lives. This helps them to focus, be self-aware and be clear of their values to lead their lives in the directions that they want.

There are great leaders among us – most of them never have the title of leader, but their actions prove they are. Find them to learn from them. Then, become a leader of your own life.

Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1. Stop and notice 2 of your leadership abilities. How are you using them on a daily basis?
  2. Stop and notice 2 places that need you to show up, step up and speak up as a leader – at work, in the community, at school or at home.
  3. Stop and notice 2 people who model excellent life leader abilities – who are they and what abilities do you notice??

Get in the habit of stopping and noticing – and your world opens for you and your kids. The information you need to be successful and happy in life is always in front of you – you just have to stop and notice.

Suggested Resource

True Success – A New Philosophy of Excellence by Tom Morris, PH.D.

Be The Leader Episode Recommended Book One of the books that belongs in every family’s library, True Success is a roadmap of how to become successful in life by living as a leader of one’s life. Though the 7Cs of success, Tom Morris presents a formula for us to learn how to show up successfully to the moments of our lives. Said another way, he shares how to show up as a leader in the moments of our lives. Loaded with practical stories, examples and meaningful steps, True Success helps us all understand how to focus on and achieve the things that really matter to us – not to chase after the wrong things. And in the process, we learn how to own our lives and live as the leaders in our lives.

Share it with someone. We all need help learning to discover and achieve true success.