Valuing Yourself

Being A Great Parent Starts By Valuing Yourself, with Gina Hatzis – RFL030

Being A Great Parent Starts By Valuing Yourself – Episode Overview

We have been taught that good parents give, give, give. We do for our kids and if there is anything left, we then take if for ourselves. But to be a great parent – one who is present, loving, aware and interested – we have fill OUR energy tanks. We have to take care of ourselves, love ourselves and value ourselves. This isn’t selfish – in fact, it is the way we tap into our greatest energy and abilities – to be really there for our families. It isn’t a them OR us thing – it’s a them AND us thing.

Attention and Intention

This week, my attention is on what it means to be a good mom or parent. My intention is to share that what makes us great – or successful in parenting – is to first know, care for and love ourselves. This way we show up to all we do as our best selves and be able to better get our kids ready for life.

Meet our guest Gina Hatziz

Gina Hatzis on valuing yourselfGina Hatzis is the Founder and Director of Possibilities at Project Passion International (where she helps people transform all areas of their lives by transforming their relationship with themselves). As a coach, author and mindfulness expert, she guides people through a process to come back to their authentic selves. As a host of the popular, Ignite A Life You Love telesummit, she assembles people passionate about living their power and being accountable to create lives they love to share their wisdom with all of us. Parents of two, Gina and her husband incorporate their loving, self-worth thinking into their parenting.

Episode’s Key TakeAWays

  1. Self-awareness – our ability to know ourselves is critical for us as parents and for our kids. We must know who we are in order not to lose ourselves as a parent. Parenting is just part of our lives – knowing ourselves lets us pay attention to the other important parts of our lives that need daily attention.
  2. We are unique, talented and amazing people independent of our parenting. It is important for us, to be great parents, to be able to separate our kids lives from our lives.
  3. We must always be true to our inner spirit to be able to help our kids discover and develop their inner spirit. This means we must value ourselves and make time for own personal development.
  4. It is not selfish to take time for ourselves as parents. We must each allow for our own growth and development to show up great as parents. Great parents come from being a great person – this requires our constant investment in ourselves.
  5. Be sure to separate your responses and reactions from those of your kids. They get to own their responses to their world – it is not our job to swoop in and fix everything for our kids. It is more productive to help them solve and own their issues – and it allows us to remember that though we love them, their lives are theirs and our lives are ours.
  6. Dr Masuro Emoto on valuing yourselfSee the links to the Dr Emoto activity that Gina talks about during the podcast. Images  Video  Article
  7. You can’t thrive if you ignore yourself, your health and your needs. To be a great parent needs you to be energized and present. You don’t deliver your best if you are running on empty.
  8. When we are running on empty, it shows in the kind of parent we are. When we are tired and down, we don’t parent in our best way. Spend time reenergizing yourself is the key to improving your parenting and helping your kids thrive.

Some question for parents:

  1. What do you build into your day to take care of you – mentally, spiritually, intellectually and physically?
  2. When was the last time you did something great for yourself – to remind you of your value and worth?
  3. How can you help train your kids to respect and honor everyone’s right to feel important, valuable and to be who they are?
  4. What is the energy level at home? What is your personal energy level? How are both of these affecting your kids?

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Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

    1. Stop and Notice what energy level you have during your days? What is one way you could increase it?
    2. Stop and Notice how your energy level is affecting your parenting? What do you need to do to improve this energy?
    3. Stop and Notice how much you give of yourself to your kids and family. What needs to happen to pull it back into balance?

Parenting is part of your life. You are here to live boldly, confidently and fully in addition to your parenting. Focus on your development to stay energized. This not only helps you love your life more, but helps you show up more successfully to your parenting.

Suggested Resource:

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