Living Successful Lives

How You and Your Kids Can Live Significant and Successful Lives with Aaron Walker – RFL031

How You and Your Kids Can Live Significant and Successful Lives – Episode Overview

Many people call self-help, shelf-help – books that stay on the shelves but don’t really make that much of an impact. So today we talk about PRACTICAL personal development and growth. We know that as we discover, develop and live what is best in us – something that takes practice and learning – we live a greater version of ourselves. This does two amazing things. First it helps us become better parents, and secondly, we see the value in personal development so we can then guide, support and coach our kids into THEIR greater development.

Attention and Intention

This week, my attention is on what it takes to be a great parent. My intention is to share that developing ourselves is the key to becoming our best in all we do – particularly in our parenting – is the key to teaching our kids how to live significant and successful lives.

Meet our guest Aaron Walker

Aaron Walker on successful livesAaron T Walker, founder of View From the Top, is a guide who helps men discover and develop lives of success and significance through coaching, masterminds and resources that focus on their business, personal and spiritual lives. Over many years Aaron has written hundreds of blog posts, has interviewed and been interviewed by some of today’s smartest talent and has created powerful products to help you with your productivity, understanding yourself and directing your life in ways that truly matter.

IMPORTANT Free Offer from Aaron for you!

successful lives and the view from the topAaron has created a landing page for our listeners and on it has given you free access to three of his great resources:

  1.    Your personal assessment
  2.    What do I want (how to live intentionally)
  3.    Steps to a productive day

As someone who regularly inspires others to discover and live what is best in them, these resources will help you grow in your development and be clearer about what it means to live a successful and significant life. Click here for the link to the landing page or paste this link (www.viewfromthetop.com/yourkids) into your browser. Thank you Aaron!

Episode’s Key TakeAWays

  1. Significance is about seeing more than just yourself – it is about spending energy looking out more than in.
  2. Leadership values that drive leadership behaviors are: Excellence, Integrity, Resilience and Service. Being successful and significant in life comes from developing these values in ourselves and in our kids. We can’t help but show up successful and significant in life when we develop a focus on excellence, integrity, resilience and service.
  3. Parents can learn from coaches – to encourage, inspire and lift up our kids to tap into their inner abilities and use them to make their impact and mark on the world.
  4. The world has us convinced that success comes from having more possessions.
  5. The key to success – everywhere – is the development of relationships. Regularly check in on your kids – and others – just to show your interest. This helps them feel valuable and significant. As they learn this behavior from you, they then can do it for others.
  6. Aaron shares a great story of the present parent who really tunes in and listens to his son, takes the time to answer his question and really connects. Few things have such a great impact on our kids and on the quality of our parenting as our commitment to be present and responsive to our kids.
  7. We are unique, talented and amazing people independent of our parenting. It is important for us, to be great parents, to keep working on being a great person – being the best version of ourselves.
  8. Stop telling, start asking – spend more time asking than telling your kids. As you ask, you activate their growth and thinking. You help them tune in, learn and tap into their greatest abilities. This helps them determine how to be successful in today’s world.

Some question for parents:

  1. What message do you share with your kids about what success and significance means? How are you their go-to source to help them define this than to use what the world defines?
  2. How are you intentionally supporting and uplifting your kids – what things are you doing to ensure your kids always feel significant?
  3. When was the last time you spent time on developing yourself – of ensuring you are always learning and growing – to be sure you are living a life of success and significance?
  4. When was the last time you asked your kids how you are doing as a parent – not about giving them things – but about showing them that they are valuable, important and precious to you?

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Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1. Stop and Notice how you make your kids feel significant in your life. What needs improving?
  2. Stop and Notice what you do in your own learning and growing to help you feel significant in your own life. What investment do you make in yourself to be your best – to be able to be the best parent you can be?
  3. Stop and Notice what lessons you are sharing with your kids on how to be successful and significant in life. What values are you teaching your kids that help them focus outward as well as inward to have a balanced life?

We are our kids’ guides, support and coaches – to help them learn about themselves, learn about their world and how to build a life of success and significance. What matters most to them is feeling important, valuable and significant in our lives. Make time for them. Guide them and what they learn from you, they will use to build their lives of success and significance.

Suggested Resource:

The Path To Purpose – Helping Our Kids Find Their Calling In Life – by William Damon

Successful Lives and The Path To Purpose(Outstanding book!) Drawing on the revelatory results of a landmark study, William Damon — one of the country’s leading writers on the lives of young people, whose book Greater Expectations won the Parents’ Choice Award — brilliantly investigates the most pressing issue in the lives of youth today: why so many young people are “failing to launch” — living at home longer, lacking career motivation, struggling to make a timely transition into adulthood, and not yet finding a life pursuit that inspires them.

His groundbreaking study shows that about one-fifth of youth today are thriving — highly engaged in activities they love and developing a clear sense of what they want to do with their lives — but approximately one-fourth are still rudderless, at serious risk of never fulfilling their potential. The largest portion are teetering on the brink, in need of guidance to help them move forward: some are “dabblers” who pursue strings of disconnected interests with no real commitment; others, “dreamers” who have no realistic plans or understanding of what success will require.

What makes the difference? Damon shows that the key ingredient for the highly engaged is that they have developed a clear sense of purpose in their lives that motivates them and gives them direction. Based on in-depth interviews, he takes readers inside the minds of the disengaged and drifting kids and exposes their confusion and anxiety about what they should do with their lives. He then offers compelling portraits of the young people who are thriving and identifies the nine key factors that have made the difference for them, presenting simple but powerful methods that parents and all adults can and must employ in order to cultivate that energized sense of purpose in young people that will launch them on the path to a deeply satisfying and productive life.