Success and Failure, a practical discussion with Seymour Segnit

Success and Failure, a Practical Discussion with Seymour Segnit RFL13

A Practical Conversation About Success and Failure – Episode Overview

Seymour Segnit on Success and FailureIn this episode we connect with the founder of thingCharger and clever entrepreneur, Seymour Segnit. He candidly shares his thoughts on moving on from challenges and failures and rallying around successes. His wisdom is for parents as well as the business community.

Attention and Intention

In this episode our attention is on how to notice the successes and failures in our lives, and our intention is that we learn to be realistic in using both our successes and failures to make better decisions – everywhere.

Meet our Guest – Seymour Segnit

A serial entrepreneur who has learned to spot good ideas, build from failures and keep perspective, Seymour Segnit is a realist. He knows his abilities, having been a peak potential trainer; he knows how to look at today’s world for needs and opportunities to add value and make a difference in areas that need what he does best. His latest venture is the creation of thingCharger, a new device charger that eliminates the problem of a tangle of cords and wires. It became the all-time #1 crowdfunded mobile accessory. Click on his links to see thingCharger and some of Seymour’s others great ideas.

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Episode’s Key Takeaways:

Successes are events to build on. Celebrate them and do more with them.

Help your kids see the areas they excel in and by connecting what they are great at to places in their world, they see successes happen. According to the wisdom of Tom Morris (a future podcast guest) we should be both noble (aware that we are capable of great things) and humble (aware that others are too). So, success is a moment where it all comes together and we use it to learn how to build more events like these. Spending all our time celebrating our successes will quickly help us lose our edge. Celebrate and build.

Failures are events to learn from.

Most people avoid failure; in fact, our culture trains us to fear it and avoid it. However, talking to most of the successful people over hundreds of years, we see that what was different for them was their view of failure. Failure is a learning event, not to be feared, but to be used to grow. This doesn’t mean we shrug it off, it means we pay greater attention to the failure to build a way to be better because of it. Great entrepreneurs never fear failure – they look at it as the information they needed to move more wisely with the next decision. Learn from and grow.

Some question for parents:

  1. How do you help your kids look at and use their successes?
  2. How can you help your kids discover what they are good at to help them identify the areas that need what they do best, to help them learn how to be more successful?
  3. How do you help your kids look at and use their failures?
  4. How do you allow your kids to fail and not always rush in and make things right?
  5. How do you talk about failures – yours, others and theirs – to help them see how to grow from them and not to be afraid of them?

Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1.    Stop and Notice a recent failure. Ask yourself these questions.
    •    What caused it – what was my role in it?
    •    What did it teach me?
    •     What will I be sure to do better next time?
  1.    Stop and notice a recent success. This is important because we generally spend time noticing our failures and not our successes. When you notice a success, ask yourself the following questions:
    •    What caused it – what was my role in it?
    •    What did it teach me?
    •     How can I build on it for the next time?

Life just provides learning – from both successes and failures. Stop and notice both and you will make life your live classroom, ready to teach you all sorts of things you need to be ready for life.

Suggested Resource

Everyday Blessings – The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting by Myla and John Kabat-Zinn

Everyday Blessings Book - A Success and Failure ResourceThis is my favorite book on mindful parenting, well in addition to the Conscious Parent by Shifali Tsbary. Mindful Parenting brings awareness to the moments of our parenting – of learning to show up to the successes and failures of life – always watching, learning, growing and connecting with our kids. In try Kabat-Zinn form, the book is large but it truly is not meant to be read all at once. Find the sections that appeal most to you – and work from there. They address every aspect of mindfulness from its basic understanding, to becoming self-aware, to using that awareness to show up differently to your kids. This book stays on my desk to check in on their thinking as life sends me things to deal with.

Share it with someone. We all get better when we learn how to help each other become the best parents we can be.