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How To Help Your Kids Learn to Think Like an Entrepreneur with Ally LoPrete – RFL032

How to Help Your Kids Learn To Think Like an Entrepreneur – Episode Overview

To think like an entrepreneur doesn’t mean you have to start a business. Rather, to think like an entrepreneur means you are someone who actively and intentionally watches your world for places to connect WITH what is best in you, to find your fit and to make your impact. Great entrepreneurs know themselves – what they are good at, passionate about and what matters to them – they know their world – they see its successes, needs and challenges – and they connect the two to create opportunities. Imagine if we were able to get ourselves and our kids to think this way – to go through life intentionally looking for, seeking out and creating opportunities to do what WE DO BEST. Think of the options and possibilities it would create for them AND for us…

Attention and Intention

This week, my attention is on how to help our kids (and ourselves) find our way in life – what fits us. My intention is that we learn to train ourselves to seek out, create and notice areas that need what we do best – so we can build lives of happiness, success and impact. In short to learn to think like an entrepreneur – to give ourselves options.

Meet our guest Ally LoPrete

Ally Loprete on how to think like an EntrepreneurAlly Loprete is a talented coach, speaker and is the host of this Little Parent Stayed Home, a radio program on iHeart Talk Radio, with a mission to bring 1 million parents home through self-employment and entrepreneurship. Known as the Work/Life Balance Parenting expert, she founded the widely popular OurMilkMoney.com, the largest online search directory for parents in the world. She is committed to helping all parents realize their greatness, and in the process, learn how to guide, support and coach their kids to do the same – to make their marks on life. High energy, focused and committed to doing amazing things, Ally is a role model for those needing to rekindle the energy to live life like it matters.

Episode’s Key TakeAWays

  1. Every moment provides the OPPORTUNITY to find the joy in life and in being the parent. We just have to choose to see it.
  2. To think like an entrepreneur doesn’t mean you have to start a business. To think like an entrepreneur means you know yourself, know your world and now how to find the opportunities in your world that fit you and your best abilities. Entrepreneurs are always looking for ways to do what they do best – they see things differently – they are opportunity hunters.
  3. Each of us has superhero qualities – we are great at some things (and not at others). When we find our thing, we start to see the opportunities related to it. This gives us clarity in starting to create our road in life – a road that lets us use our superhero abilities to show up big to all we do (note for parents – help your kids start to see and live their “superhero” abilities). Embrace what makes you and your kids different and unique as a way of creating clarity to find what in today’s world is for you (parents and kids).
  4. Opportunities are challenges and life lessons reframed in a positive light. Challenges can take us and our kids down – but by reframing challenges or obstacles into a conversation of seeing the OPPORTUNITY, trains our kids to be confident in handling what life sends them, knowing how to make something good out of whatever happens.
  5. Some people don’t like us when we shine – when we find and do our “thing.” Just be aware and don’t let others stop you from seeing and developing opportunities that are clear for you.
  6. Opportunities help us see what environments light up for us. Opportunities pull us in specific directions. If we see no opportunities, that generally means we are in an area that is not for us. This gives us clarity.
  7. We have to remember that each of our kids is different and the opportunities that will matter to each will likely be different. There is no one-size-fits-all parenting or no one-size-fits-all opportunity. Take the time to help each kid seek out, create or find their opportunities. What do your kids get pulled to or are interested in – these are places for opportunities.
  8. Life is filled with opportunities. Most of them we miss because we focus more on the challenges than the opportunities. As we become more like entrepreneurs in the way we think – always looking for the opportunity in what happens – we share with ourselves and our kids a world of possibilities. In these possibilities, we each will find our thing – our place – our way to show up big to our lives

Some question for parents:

  1. What message do you share with your kids about welcoming and using challenges to find opportunities?
  2. How do you help your kids learn to see things differently – to see the opportunity in things that others can’t see?
  3. How do you stay supportive as kids start to discover their abilities and opportunities?
  4. Parenting is a big job and big responsibility – what do you do each day to help yourself feel valuable, important and living life fully?
  5. How do you pay attention well enough in this moment to hunt for the opportunity to make this moment great?

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Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1. Stop and Notice how you look at life challenges – do you see the negative or do you see opportunity?
  2. Stop and Notice how you help your kids hunt for opportunities. How are you helping them learn how to think like an entrepreneur?
  3. Stop and Notice what makes your kid unique, different and amazing. How are you helping him see this and use this to start to identify the opportunities that fit him?
  4. Stop and Notice how you take care of yourself. How can you be great as a parent if you are not feeling valuable, important and relevant as a person? What opportunities do you have or make to take care of yourself?

Life is filled with opportunities. Most of them we miss because we focus more on the challenges than the opportunities. As we become more like entrepreneurs in the way we think – always looking for the opportunity in whatever happens – then we share with ourselves and our kids a world of possibilities. In these possibilities, we each will find our thing – our place – our way to show up big to our lives.

Suggested Resource:

You Are Here - So Think Like An EntrepreneurYou Are Here – Discovering the Magic of the Present Moment – by Thich Nhat Hanh

In this book Thich Nhat Hanh, the renowned Zen monk, author, and meditation master, distills the essence of Buddhist thought and practice, emphasizing the power of mindfulness to transform our lives. “Mindfulness is not an evasion or an escape,” he explains. “It means being here, present, and totally alive. It is true freedom—and without this freedom, there is no happiness.”

Based on a retreat that Thich Nhat Hanh led for Westerners, this book offers a range of simple, effective practices for cultivating mindfulness, including awareness of breathing and walking, deep listening, and skillful speech. You Are Here also offers guidance on healing emotional pain and manifesting real love and compassion in our relationships with others.

Apply For College Successfully – What You Need To Know, with Gareth Fowles – RFL029

Apply For College Successfully – What You Need To Know – Episode Overview

For many, going to college is a big part of getting ready for life. Though we feel that getting the college degree to is the key to a better job, or to getting the training needed for a career that both appeals to and fits us, most students or parents don’t know how to choose a major, a school or how to apply for college successfully. This shows up in these statistics:

  •      46% of students who start college, never finish.
  •      On average, 4-year degree takes just under 6 years to complete.
  •      Average student loan debt at graduation is $28k

There are so many decisions that have to be made wisely to choose a college that FITS – that allows your kids to be who they are – and prepares them for a specific career or educational outcome. So, 3 questions:

  1.    How do students create a list of meaningful colleges to apply to?
  2.    What do college admissions offices want to see from or about the student?
  3.    What things should your high school students be doing now to become better or more attractive admissions candidates?

Attention and Intention

This week, my attention is on college, as a component of being ready for life. College isn’t for everyone, but if it is for you, then my intention is to share what college admissions departments want and expect from the applicant, so you can guide and support your kids to better prepare to be accepted to the college of their choice.

Meet our guest Gareth Fowles

Gareth Fowles on how to Apply For College SuccessfullyGareth Fowles is the vice president for enrollment management at Lynn University. A native of S Africa, Gareth has degrees from both Lynn University and Vanderbilt University. His focus is on both student recruiting and retention and actively supports a college environment that allows students to realize their full potential.

Episode’s Key TakeAWays

  1. The greatest help to decide whether to go to college, and then which college, is to know yourself – your talents, passions, values and interests and to know your world – the opportunities that need what you do best. This introduces you to career and job good-fit opportunities in your world. Then you can identify which majors would prepare you for this direction – and then which colleges belong on your application list.
  2. The college preparation and application process is really a four-year process:
    1. Freshman in high school. Start to discover your talents and interests. Investigate careers that appeal. Start to read about colleges, majors and college cultures. Start a broad list of colleges. Pay attention to courses, grades and performance.
    2. Sophomore in high school. Start to define interests and criteria you want in a college. Spend time on college websites. Start to narrow down a list of possible locations, including assessing cost. Choose your high school courses that align to your interest and future career intentions. Pay attention to courses, grades and performance.
    3. Junior in high school. Create a more defined list worthy of college visits – virtual or live. Work to creating a final application list with 3 – 8 college choices. Prepare a list of questions to ask on campus. Identify areas to see or review. Participate in some classes. At high school, focus on grades and taking courses that prepare you for your intended direction.
    4. Senior in high school. Prepare and send applications to final list. Scout all financial aid or scholarship opportunities. Stay in touch with college admissions departments. Finish off year strong.
  3. Most students apply to too many colleges – average is 8 or fewer. With too many colleges on the list, a student will be unable to do the right due diligence to assess the college’s fit. With clarity, 3- 5 is a reasonable amount to have on your final application list.
  4. Choose your college based on its ability to prepare you for where you want to be and what you want to be doing after college.
  5. When considering colleges – in addition to selecting for academics – consider culture, graduation rate, college specialties, ability to study abroad, athletics, student teacher ratio, talent of professors, geography (including urban and a college), faith/beliefs, activities, clubs, alignment with values, etc.  Though the student’s world will dramatically expand once on campus, doing self and career exploration work before the student arrives will help him choose more wisely. Assess whether the college is one that will let the student be who they really are.
  6. Have your student do his own application, essays and have his own voice in all interviews, campus visits and applications. Parents should be collaboratively involved (review, guide and assist), but students must do the work. An admissions team can see through an application completed by someone other than the student. This also encourages our students be independent thinkers and learners
  7. A high school GPA is a better indicator of success than a standardized test. There are now over 850 test-optional colleges – where standardized tests ACT or SAT scores are not required.

Some question for parents:

  1. How can you help your student discover his talents, passions, values and interests?
  2. How can you start a conversation about what careers fit your student – and which fields or directions appeal?
  3. How can you be collaboratively involved in the college investigation, application and admissions process, and not step in and do the work for your student?
  4. How can you help your student develop great study habits in high school to help them perform consistently well – this is the greatest factor in getting in to a college of their choice.

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Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1. Stop and Notice what your kids are good at and passionate about. How can this help you help them think about future career directions and the role of college?
  2. Stop and Notice your student’s feeling about college – is it needed for his future career focus? Does he have any interest in having college be part of his future?
  3. Stop and Notice which colleges get your student’s attention. What culture, environment, and other aspects seem to matter to your student?
  4. Stop and Notice how much of the college preparation and application process you are doing for your student. Be sure this is his work to do.

College is a big decision – and therefore it needs an effective planning and preparation process to decide wisely. Stay focused on who the student is and what he wants for life after college to give you guidance about which college, major and environment may serve him best. Be there to support and guide but remember this is his college, career and life, and he is best when he learns how to own it.

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Apply to college successfully with this resource: Where You Go - Frank BruniWhere You Go is Not Who You’ll Be – An Antidote To The College Admissions Mania  By Frank Bruni

Over the last few decades, Americans have turned college admissions into a terrifying and occasionally devastating process, preceded by test prep, tutors, all sorts of stratagems, all kinds of rankings, and a conviction among too many young people that their futures will be determined and their worth established by which schools say yes and which say no.

That belief is wrong. It’s cruel. And in WHERE YOU GO IS NOT WHO YOU’LL BE, Frank Bruni explains why, giving students and their parents a new perspective on this brutal, deeply flawed competition and a path out of the anxiety that it provokes.

Bruni, a bestselling author and a columnist for the New York Times, shows that the Ivy League has no monopoly on corner offices, governors’ mansions, or the most prestigious academic and scientific grants. Through statistics, surveys, and the stories of hugely successful people who didn’t attend the most exclusive schools, he demonstrates that many kinds of colleges-large public universities, tiny hideaways in the hinterlands-serve as ideal springboards. And he illuminates how to make the most of them. What matters in the end are a student’s efforts in and out of the classroom, not the gleam of his or her diploma.

Where you go isn’t who you’ll be. Americans need to hear that-and this indispensable manifesto says it with eloquence and respect for the real promise of higher education.

 

 

Get Ready To Apply To College, With Randy Mills – RFL007

Episode Overview

Apply to college with Randy MillsNote – the content is great in this podcast – we apologize for the recording and sound quality. 

In this episode, we presume that you have decided that going to college is a meaningful next step to helping you achieve your objectives. To be ready to apply to college – to sort through all of the college choices, majors and the application process – there is some important information you need. Randy Mills, Co-Director of College Placement at Greenhill School, shares with us the things that college admissions departments need and want from applications and candidates.

Take away messages for students and parents

  1. Choosing a college wisely first requires research – find out the following and compare it to what you want and need:

    1. What majors are offered?
    2. How are courses taught?
    3. What size is the school?
    4. What is the culture?
    5. What is the cost?
    6. What is the geography?
  2. Choosing a college wisely requires work in each of your four high school years.

    1. As a freshman, use your time to start your research and expand what you learn about schools.
    2. As a sophomore, talk to others about your list of schools; contact alumni groups, correspond with the admissions and career development offices of schools that get your interest. Start college visits. Take meaningful courses. Step into community service and volunteering.
    3. As a junior, start to narrow the list of college – to your silver, gold and platinum choices. Do additional research. Understand each college’s application process – prepare through school and community to meet all of the requirements. Make campus visits. Correpsond with alumni and students at top choice schools.
    4. As a senior, finalize your list, complete your applications, connect with alumni. Continue to perform well in school. Start selecting career directions and consider majors.
  3. Use the resources at the colleges and in your high schools to learn as much as you can about yourself, today’s workplace and how the colleges respond.

  4. Choose college on purpose. Don’t do it because others do it.

Stop and Notice

This week we have been talking about how to get ready for college. So here are two things for you to notice:

  1. Notice the jobs or careers you think fit you. Notice what education (if any) is required to be successful in it. Search through job descriptions on www.Monster.com and www.Indeed.com. Start a list of what is required for the jobs you want.
  2. Next, just pick a couple of colleges that get your attention for whatever reason. Then notice what it takes to apply and be accepted. Notice the courses they offer and if the courses will help you be ready for what you want to do. Notice what attending the school will be like. What geography does it have? What is its culture? What is its size? How are their classes taught? Do some research.

As you stop and notice these, just record some questions that come to mind. Contact the colleges or find people in the roles that interest you to become more informed. Know what is involved in each and you will know how to prepare to be successful.

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Suggested Resources

TeenLife.com – Great website that has powerful and meaningful information for teens and parents. Here is their mission:

Our mission is to make it simple for teens (along with their parents and educators) to develop a meaningful personal experience portfolio, no matter the makeup of their individual interests, talents and resources.

Check out their site and stay connected to their blogs. They write great, practical and meaningful things that teens and parents need to know.

This week’s Focus:

15 Free Apps to Help With College Prep

As the title shares, here is a link worthy of your time. The apps range from finding colleges, learning about the culture at colleges, to arranging your visits at college campuses. Great one for both parents and students to review.

Important Links:

  • All Groan Up – Paul Angone – Advice for surviving your 20s
  • Life After College – Jenny Blake – Live Big After College
  • Ask The Headhunter – Nick Corcodilos – Important information about getting a job
  • Campus to Career – Kirk Baumann – practical information to move into the job market
  • Sumry – Nate Hanson – Land your dream job

Key People To Follow:

  • Tom V Morris – Philosopher, Consultant to Fortune 100 companies, wise man
  • Britt Hysen – Editor in Chief of MiLLENiAL – lifestyle and cultural magazine highlighting millennials’ contribution to today’s world.
  • SethGodin– Marketing Guru and wise blogger – constant information about showing up and doing great things at work and in life.

Download our Ready4Life Navigation Guide – it will explain how to use our  Ready4Life GPS – to connect you to the tools to know yourself, know your world so you can find your fit.

Be sure to take our 3AboutMe Free Talent Assessment. It shares your three core talents – and the practical words to describe them to you and your world. This way you can start to see what areas of work and life light up for you. Good information to know as you get ready for your great and amazing life.