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The 3 Words That Will Help You Have The Most Amazing New Year

So, a new year is here. How lucky are we to be here in this moment, anticipating an amazing new year. After all, your thoughts create your reality so with the arrival of a new year, think big.

How do you help yourself and your family show up to a new and open slate – filled with as many or as few opportunities as you want to bring to it – filled with as many or as few successes as you want to create? How do you look at a new year as a blank canvas, waiting for you to create your masterpiece – your year of amazingness?

My dad taught my 5 siblings and me a process to welcome the new year in – one that I still do and share with my coaching clients. Simple to use, it is a great way to get intentional in a new year or in any period of change. To make it work you only need to remember 3 simple words, Review, Rethink, Respond.

First, we were reminded as kids, Review what happened in the year that just finished – in other words, tune in and notice the details of what you have been through.

  • What worked and didn’t work well?
  • What were your greatest successes?
  • What were your greatest lessons?
  • How did you change and improve in the year?
  • How did you get a better understanding of who you are, what you are good at and what fits you in life?
  • What made you happy or sad?
  • What do you wish you would have done less of, more of?

Gathering information is the first step to becoming intentional about building your new year. Stop and notice you – and all that you remember. With the information we are ready to Rethink. Rethink what COULD happen this year – do more of what worked well, look for change in areas that didn’t go well. Imagine and visualize your wishes, dreams and opportunities – create a life of possibilities.

  • If you could show up to life in the way that you want, what great things will you dream up, invent, achieve and work towards this year?
  • What will improve this year over last year?
  • What will you continue to develop from last year?
  • What successes from last year will drive success this year?
  • When this year is over and you are celebrating how this year was happy and successful for you, what would have happened for you to think this?

With so many more options now in mind, select the one(s) that you want to implement and Respond. This means build a plan and go make it happen.

  • What is on your daily, weekly, monthly to-do list to move you ahead on what you want to do, learn about, grow into, develop or achieve?
  • What help do you need to get it done?
  • Who needs your help to advance their progress?
  • How is this helping you to tap into your greatness and to help you add value and make a difference in all you do?
  • Who are you becoming?

Review, Rethink, Respond. Three easy words to approach any situation (new school year, new job, new relationship, whatever). Review what your old behaviors or results shared with you. Use that information to Rethink what is possible, then choose wisely and Respond by building an intentional plan to work towards your 2016 goals. Use these to create an amazing new year – an exceptional 2016.

May you have an abundant new year, filled with opportunities that let you grow into your greatest self and to deliver to the world what you do and love best.

 

Living and Loving Life Your Way with Kimberly Travaglino RFL14

Living and Loving Life Your Way – Episode Overview

Kimberly-Travaglino-webToday we talk about living and loving life on our terms – and helping our kids do the same. This is hard work for parents as we feel we need to get our kids into the classic success model of work, house, family = happy. Instead, what if we were open to helping our kids discover whatever makes them happy and successful – and to support, guide and coach them in that Process. So, we connect with the suburban mom who, 5 years ago, decided to live her dream of spending all of her time together as a family, seeing the country. She sold the house, the cars and took her husband, 4 kids and 3 dogs on the road. Challenged by most everyone to shift back to living life in the “normal” way, Kimberly Travaglino holds fast on to living and loving life on her terms. Thrilled by the nomadic way of life in a 350 square foot trailer, she is courageous to go after her dream of sharing the learning and discovery of their world through the eyes of her kids – everyday, all day. The greatest gift we have in life is choice – are you living the life you choose, or are you pushed around by those who tell you how life is supposed to be.

Maybe living in an RV is not your idea of adventure, but look at the courage, clarity and commitment it took to reinvent life their way? How can this family inspire and engage you to find and live life on your terms?

Attention and Intention

This week, our attention is on how we live life – and our intention is that we have the courage to build it, create it, invent it and live it in a way that gives us our greatest joy and connects us to our greatest purpose.

Meet our guest Kimberly Travaglino

Wife to Chris, roadschool mom to four exuberant kiddos, author, Radio Show Personality, Blogger, Editor In Chief and digital gypsy at Fulltime Families.com, she just moved her life from the house to the road. She shares that her nomadic spirit may challenge what her parents and siblings think of her approach to life, but as you will hear in the podcast, this is one clear, happy, connected and living the dream person. As she shares, the Traveling Travaglinos have lived everywhere. Tune in to hear her story and may it inspire the courage in you to go out and live life your way.

Guest Links:

Episode’s Key Takeaways:

  1. Don’t let the world tell you how to live. Though the world will try to influence your decisions, create a clear vision of what a great life is for you. Solicit ideas from your kids. As a family, talk about what amplifies life. Learn to hear and trust your own voice.
  2. Life is an adventure. Build adventures into your days – to connect your kids to dreaming and living their dreams. Notice and connect with your world – it has a lot to share about life.
  3. Invent as you go. Have a general plan and then ad-lib as you go. Opportunities show up in the moment so tune in and see what life is sending you – then decide what you want to do next.
  4. Use every opportunity in life to help your kids learn about life. All situations can help our kids learn how to show up to their lives, in their way. Coaching and guiding them to build their own lives.
  5. Spend as much time with your kids as you can. Watch your kids experience the world – to appreciate its wonder and to be there to help explain, support and guide through the experiences.

Some question for parents:

  1. How do you help your kids dream about what is a great life for them?
  2. How do you create adventures to show your kids more and more of the world? With there expanded view comes expanded opportunities?
  3. What courage do you need to develop to change the things in your life that need changing – to help you love life more and live on your terms?
  4. How are you (and how do you help your kids) learn to be the owners of your own lives – to live it in a way that matters?

Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1. Stop and Notice one thing you would love to have in your life but don’t. What is stopping you from going after this or making a change?
  2. Stop and Notice what your kids think a great life is – or a life that is lived on their terms. Help them dream, invent and imagine. What can you do to help them start to discover and go after their best life?
  3. Stop and Notice someone who is courageously living their dreams. What can you learn from them so this becomes your approach?

Find your voice. Live life on your terms. Be courageous. Teach your kids to go out and live life like it matters, building in adventures and living their dreams. We seem to need permission to go out and live our lives – what if the only permission you needed was your own voice – and that your kids learned how to develop and trust their voices.

Suggested Resource – Companion App

companion-app-alert-modeIt’s 11:30 p.m. and you’re walking home alone from the library. You’ve heard that some areas are unsafe. You think about texting a roommate to let her know that you’re on your way back, but decide not to because it really isn’t that far of a walk. Besides, this wouldn’t exactly be of help if you ran into trouble. Instead, you just hope that no one will bother you.

Now however, Companion, a free app developed by five University of Michigan students, gives that friend you reached out to the ability to actively participate in ensuring your safety.

Companion is simple to use. You plug in your destination and choose any number of contacts as your “Companions.” Your friends or family don’t need to have the app to watch and stay with you.

Should your phone’s already built-in sensors pick up anything suspicious — for instance, if you’ve detoured from your path, start running, or fall — the app notifies your “Companion” and gives them the option of asking, “Are You Okay?” You then have 15 seconds to respond with “I Am Okay” before an alarm is triggered on your phone to scare off any potential attacker or notify your companions.

  • If you feel unsafe at any time, you can also press an “I Feel Nervous” button that alerts your contacts, which can include your local police or 911.
  • It still requires great attention as we (or our kids) move through life, but an app like this can give all of us some additional sense of security and support.
  • The app is free and you can download it on the Apple App Store or on Google Play.

Success and Failure, a Practical Discussion with Seymour Segnit RFL13

A Practical Conversation About Success and Failure – Episode Overview

Seymour Segnit on Success and FailureIn this episode we connect with the founder of thingCharger and clever entrepreneur, Seymour Segnit. He candidly shares his thoughts on moving on from challenges and failures and rallying around successes. His wisdom is for parents as well as the business community.

Attention and Intention

In this episode our attention is on how to notice the successes and failures in our lives, and our intention is that we learn to be realistic in using both our successes and failures to make better decisions – everywhere.

Meet our Guest – Seymour Segnit

A serial entrepreneur who has learned to spot good ideas, build from failures and keep perspective, Seymour Segnit is a realist. He knows his abilities, having been a peak potential trainer; he knows how to look at today’s world for needs and opportunities to add value and make a difference in areas that need what he does best. His latest venture is the creation of thingCharger, a new device charger that eliminates the problem of a tangle of cords and wires. It became the all-time #1 crowdfunded mobile accessory. Click on his links to see thingCharger and some of Seymour’s others great ideas.

Guest Links:

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Episode’s Key Takeaways:

Successes are events to build on. Celebrate them and do more with them.

Help your kids see the areas they excel in and by connecting what they are great at to places in their world, they see successes happen. According to the wisdom of Tom Morris (a future podcast guest) we should be both noble (aware that we are capable of great things) and humble (aware that others are too). So, success is a moment where it all comes together and we use it to learn how to build more events like these. Spending all our time celebrating our successes will quickly help us lose our edge. Celebrate and build.

Failures are events to learn from.

Most people avoid failure; in fact, our culture trains us to fear it and avoid it. However, talking to most of the successful people over hundreds of years, we see that what was different for them was their view of failure. Failure is a learning event, not to be feared, but to be used to grow. This doesn’t mean we shrug it off, it means we pay greater attention to the failure to build a way to be better because of it. Great entrepreneurs never fear failure – they look at it as the information they needed to move more wisely with the next decision. Learn from and grow.

Some question for parents:

  1. How do you help your kids look at and use their successes?
  2. How can you help your kids discover what they are good at to help them identify the areas that need what they do best, to help them learn how to be more successful?
  3. How do you help your kids look at and use their failures?
  4. How do you allow your kids to fail and not always rush in and make things right?
  5. How do you talk about failures – yours, others and theirs – to help them see how to grow from them and not to be afraid of them?

Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1.    Stop and Notice a recent failure. Ask yourself these questions.
    •    What caused it – what was my role in it?
    •    What did it teach me?
    •     What will I be sure to do better next time?
  1.    Stop and notice a recent success. This is important because we generally spend time noticing our failures and not our successes. When you notice a success, ask yourself the following questions:
    •    What caused it – what was my role in it?
    •    What did it teach me?
    •     How can I build on it for the next time?

Life just provides learning – from both successes and failures. Stop and notice both and you will make life your live classroom, ready to teach you all sorts of things you need to be ready for life.

Suggested Resource

Everyday Blessings – The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting by Myla and John Kabat-Zinn

Everyday Blessings Book - A Success and Failure ResourceThis is my favorite book on mindful parenting, well in addition to the Conscious Parent by Shifali Tsbary. Mindful Parenting brings awareness to the moments of our parenting – of learning to show up to the successes and failures of life – always watching, learning, growing and connecting with our kids. In try Kabat-Zinn form, the book is large but it truly is not meant to be read all at once. Find the sections that appeal most to you – and work from there. They address every aspect of mindfulness from its basic understanding, to becoming self-aware, to using that awareness to show up differently to your kids. This book stays on my desk to check in on their thinking as life sends me things to deal with.

Share it with someone. We all get better when we learn how to help each other become the best parents we can be.