To See A Genius, Look In The Mirror

You are a genius. No, I am not talking about your IQ. And I am not talking about whether you work for Apple.

You are a genius because you are amazing, talented, inspiring and extraordinary. You are all these things. Me too. Maybe we haven’t figured out how to live them yet, but we are these things. Knowing this empowers us to make the effort to discover what genius we came packaged with so we can be ready for life – so we can choose to live life in a way that makes a difference to ourselves and our world.

What makes you a genius?

No genius is brilliant at everything – every genius is average at some things and is utterly amazing at others. To discover what makes you a genius requires you to be open to try new things, investigate and have the courage to see yourself and the world differently. By tuning in to who you are, you start to see the elements of genius you came packaged with. By developing the courage to be authentic, you gain access to your genius. But the decks are stacked against you; you are guided and encouraged to hide or cover up your genius.

You are taught in school to see things in the same way – the grass is green, the sky is blue and the sun is yellow; there is something wrong with you if you see shapes, colors or textures others don’t. You learn facts about the past to guide you how to think about the future. You sit in rows and memorize facts instead of following your passions, thinking independently and seeing your uniqueness as valuable and important. Your genius gets trained out of you – you learn to blend – you learn groupthink. It is easier to educate everyone in one way than to encourage each of us to see the world in our own unique and genius way.

We need our genius to be ready for life

Your genius is your guidance and fuel to live life in a way that matters – to tap into what is best in you and to use that best to build a great life and a better world. When you allow your unique genius to come forward, be developed and flourish, you expand what you see, think about and consider. This is how you can invent new and amazing things. This is how you can solve chronic or challenging problems. This is how you can find ways to change the world for the better. This is how you figure out who you are and how to show up to a life in a way that really matters.

So, what gets you ready for life? Discovering, developing and living your genius – your unique abilities.

And, what stops you? The loud voices around you that don’t see your genius or don’t consider your version of genius valuable.

Work hard to know your genius. Trust it and let it guide your decisions. And, the next time you look at someone, tune in to their ‘genius’ – their unique and amazing abilities. Get good at seeing and encouraging their genius – to allow them to be the best versions of themselves.

Be proud of your genius. See it as an amazing and remarkable part of your. Value it for how it makes you different. Value it for how it helps you find your way in a noisy and cluttered world. Value it because it lest you be the best version of you. Discover, developing and living your genius is how to be ready for life.

The One Question That Will Improve Your Life

There is one question you can ask, in any situation, that can will improve your life. It can help you stand out in the workplace, with customers, with your employees, with your managers. It can help you stand out in school, with your friends, in class and on a project. It can help you stand out in your relationship at home, with family, with friends and with people you don’t know. Ask this question and everything changes.

What is the question?

Hold on, I’ll share it in a minute.

Let’s first understand why this question works.

Stop and notice for a moment each of the following situations:

  • Your workplace
  • Your school
  • Your family
  • Your relationships

How pleased are you with each? If I asked you to rate each on a scale of 1 – 10, where 1 means it is terrible and 10 means it is off the charts, what would you rate each? Most people rate all of these between a 4 and a 6. What kind of relationships, family, school and workplace do you have with a rating of 4, 5 or 6 out of ten? Good but not great?

The reason for this is that most of us never have learned to ask this one power question – the question that changes everything. The result is we allow life to go on as it is, just accepting what comes. But this question gives you the power to change anything. Ready for the question?

Always ask this

“What could make this better?” That’s it. Or use this one modification, “What could I do to make this better?”

See, most of us don’t look at our work and lives and ask what could make it better. We take it as it comes and then get disappointed. We forget that we own our response. We want to blame the world for anything that isn’t right when we actually have the power to change it by learning to ask this question.

So, walk into any business. Walk in to any class at school. Look at any homework assignment. Look at any meal. Look at the relationship with your brother, father, sister, mother, neighbor, teacher, boss, employees. Look at any garden. Look at any vacation. Look at any room in the house. Ask the question: what could make this better? (or, What could I do to make this better?).

This question forces you and your kids – to take responsibility for the quality of your work and life. It doesn’t mean that any of the situations or events you assess aren’t good – you have just developed the habit of always considering what could make them better. This constant focus on small improvements over time leads to significant improvements. This is how great things are developed – they come from constantly asking the question, “what could make this better?”

Ask this question everywhere

To improve things in the workplace, be the employee who always asks, “what could make this (service, operations, work environment, benefits, culture, training, etc) better?” – then come up with some suggestions.

To improve things at school, be the student who always asks, “what could make this (homework, class, reading, project, sports team, activity, club, etc) better?” – then come up with some suggestions.

To improve things in your relationships, be the one who always asks, “what could make this (conversation, time with each other, intimacy, friendship, etc) better?” – then come up with some suggestions.

You improve things when you take ownership of improving everything you encounter. All it takes is a simple change in awareness –a new habit – of always asking the question, “what could make this better?” (or, “what could I do to make this better?”). Imagine your family, workplace, school, relationships, life and our world if we all asked this question more often.

Get Ready To Apply To College, With Randy Mills – RFL007

Episode Overview

Apply to college with Randy MillsNote – the content is great in this podcast – we apologize for the recording and sound quality. 

In this episode, we presume that you have decided that going to college is a meaningful next step to helping you achieve your objectives. To be ready to apply to college – to sort through all of the college choices, majors and the application process – there is some important information you need. Randy Mills, Co-Director of College Placement at Greenhill School, shares with us the things that college admissions departments need and want from applications and candidates.

Take away messages for students and parents

  1. Choosing a college wisely first requires research – find out the following and compare it to what you want and need:

    1. What majors are offered?
    2. How are courses taught?
    3. What size is the school?
    4. What is the culture?
    5. What is the cost?
    6. What is the geography?
  2. Choosing a college wisely requires work in each of your four high school years.

    1. As a freshman, use your time to start your research and expand what you learn about schools.
    2. As a sophomore, talk to others about your list of schools; contact alumni groups, correspond with the admissions and career development offices of schools that get your interest. Start college visits. Take meaningful courses. Step into community service and volunteering.
    3. As a junior, start to narrow the list of college – to your silver, gold and platinum choices. Do additional research. Understand each college’s application process – prepare through school and community to meet all of the requirements. Make campus visits. Correpsond with alumni and students at top choice schools.
    4. As a senior, finalize your list, complete your applications, connect with alumni. Continue to perform well in school. Start selecting career directions and consider majors.
  3. Use the resources at the colleges and in your high schools to learn as much as you can about yourself, today’s workplace and how the colleges respond.

  4. Choose college on purpose. Don’t do it because others do it.

Stop and Notice

This week we have been talking about how to get ready for college. So here are two things for you to notice:

  1. Notice the jobs or careers you think fit you. Notice what education (if any) is required to be successful in it. Search through job descriptions on and Start a list of what is required for the jobs you want.
  2. Next, just pick a couple of colleges that get your attention for whatever reason. Then notice what it takes to apply and be accepted. Notice the courses they offer and if the courses will help you be ready for what you want to do. Notice what attending the school will be like. What geography does it have? What is its culture? What is its size? How are their classes taught? Do some research.

As you stop and notice these, just record some questions that come to mind. Contact the colleges or find people in the roles that interest you to become more informed. Know what is involved in each and you will know how to prepare to be successful.

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This week’s Focus:

15 Free Apps to Help With College Prep

As the title shares, here is a link worthy of your time. The apps range from finding colleges, learning about the culture at colleges, to arranging your visits at college campuses. Great one for both parents and students to review.

Important Links:

  • All Groan Up – Paul Angone – Advice for surviving your 20s
  • Life After College – Jenny Blake – Live Big After College
  • Ask The Headhunter – Nick Corcodilos – Important information about getting a job
  • Campus to Career – Kirk Baumann – practical information to move into the job market
  • Sumry – Nate Hanson – Land your dream job

Key People To Follow:

  • Tom V Morris – Philosopher, Consultant to Fortune 100 companies, wise man
  • Britt Hysen – Editor in Chief of MiLLENiAL – lifestyle and cultural magazine highlighting millennials’ contribution to today’s world.
  • SethGodin– Marketing Guru and wise blogger – constant information about showing up and doing great things at work and in life.

Download our Ready4Life Navigation Guide – it will explain how to use our  Ready4Life GPS – to connect you to the tools to know yourself, know your world so you can find your fit.

Be sure to take our 3AboutMe Free Talent Assessment. It shares your three core talents – and the practical words to describe them to you and your world. This way you can start to see what areas of work and life light up for you. Good information to know as you get ready for your great and amazing life.