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Be Adaptable – The Key To Success In A Changing World

Life throws things in our way – roadblocks. We start something only to find that we can’t seem to achieve it, connect with it, finish it, make money from it, stay in relationship with it – have things go the way we want. The way to thrive – and to be ready for life – is to learn to ask ourselves this question in these situations: What is another way to do, view or consider this?

Our go-to, default response isn’t always the best one or the one that works. But when many of us meet an obstacle, we back down, quit, give up or just say “why bother?”

Be adaptable

I teach a youth leadership program. Some of the students wanted to host a particular event as part of their required community service project at a local venue. The venue manager said no to their idea and the students were ready to quit the program.

A colleague friend of mine was interested in getting a new idea implemented in his workplace. He was convinced it would make the difference he wanted to make to improve a process that directly affected customers. He brought the idea to his manager who said no to the idea. He called me to vent and to say, “why bother?”

All that has happened in these situations is that they bumped into a block – a challenge or an obstacle. How committed are we to our plan, idea or thought if at the first encounter of an obstacle or that someone says no, we drop it and give up?

They say that challenges and obstacles are life’s greatest learning situations – not when things go our way – but when things don’t go our way. These force us to rethink and reconsider. These force us to be resilient and adaptable.

Challenges test our resolve

How committed and passionate we are about an idea, a project or even a relationship influences the energy we bring to it? This is the reason we always talk about passions when we talk about abilities. Someone may have the abilities to do something but without the fuel – the passion – an obstacle can shut them down. The more passionate and committed they are, the more adaptable, resilient and tenacious they become.

To build your adaptability muscle, consider the following:

  1. Check in on your motives. How badly do you want this? See the value and impact of what you are doing to find the energy and resilience to keep pushing forward. If you don’t really believe in what you are doing, every obstacle will be enough to shut you down. If it truly doesn’t matter, let it go. If it truly does matter, keep pushing for it.
  2. Have a plan B. Life just doesn’t always go as planned; we know this but yet we still are disappointed when things don’t go our way. Go into your situations knowing you many need to shift to another plan or direction so have one in mind. By creating a plan B, you are also expanding your understanding of your situation to be able to see greater opportunities.
  3. Find an adaptability mentor. Who inspires you not to give in, but rather to keep going, find a way and be resilient? Whose life story or circumstances show you that we all have the ability of dealing with what life sends us. Use their story and success to stay focused, get back up and find another way.

To be ready for life requires that you be flexible, resilient and adaptable. These are “got to have” abilities to be part of a changing and dynamic world. If one road is blocked, don’t give up – simply tap into your inner genius to find another way.

 

You Made a Mistake – Use It To Be Wiser and Smarter

Things happen. You make a mistake. We all do. “Success is not forever and failure isn’t fatal,” says Don Shula. Perfection isn’t in our makeup – that’s okay. We all are members in the Oops! Club.

When we talk about being ready for life, many people think this means that we always get things right. We choose wisely. Things work out well.

We know life isn’t like that. We aren’t like that and that is actually the key to our greatness. To be ready for life means we know things will break down, fall apart, melt down and just not work, but our growth and development happens in the learning in those moments. We gather information about how to be better the next time.

Life is done by trial-and-error

I like to tell my audiences that we weren’t born with an owner’s manual – a guidebook that tells us who we are, what we should do and how we should live. Instead, we get the gift of each moment in life as the means to gather information – a kind of trial and error process – to see what does and doesn’t work. Each day, we show up and learn more about ourselves. Each day, we gather more information to determine what we rock at and what we stink at – so we can consider better ideas and options, then to choose those that make the most sense for who we are. In other words, do more of what you rock at and less of what you stink at.

In this process, we sometimes get it right – Woohoo! Celebrate! Sometimes we get it wrong – Woohoo! Celebrate! It is in the mistakes and failures that we actually learn more about ourselves – we gather more information that can help us better understand how to make our next moments better.

A mistake can be a tool of greatness

Maybe that seems like this statement is at odds with itself but it really isn’t. Greatness isn’t a location or an end. It is a mindset and an attitude – a commitment to discover and become one’s best. And because our road to being our best selves isn’t clearly defined, we stumble our way along. Mistakes guide us if we let them.

So, how do we get better at accepting our membership in the Oops! Club?

  • Learn to laugh more. We sometimes think everything matters. That is just a story we tell ourselves. Actually, we decide of what happens, what matters. Sure there are some serious situations in life, but most of the situations that we label as serious just aren’t. We could see them as the way life is and get better at laughing them off.
  • Learn to tune in more. Life is loaded with information, most of which we miss because we don’t tune into our lives. We are so distracted by all of the noise, lights and yack around us that we don’t pay attention to the things in our life. Tune in means noticing your thoughts, feelings and actions and what motivates them. Make time. Turn the electronics off. Close your eyes. Be still. This is how to connect to your information source.
  • Learn to cut others more slack. If we were able to allow others to be more human (because we all make mistakes), perhaps we could allow ourselves to be more human. Cut yourself some slack when things don’t go as planned. Oops. instead, just ask yourself this question: What can I do better next time?

Welcome to the Oops! Club. I am a long-time and proud card-carrying member. This club encourages learning, growing and changing. I like who I become by being part of this club – life grows deeper, stronger and bolder. This is how we access our greatness and learn how to be ready for life. Carry your membership card proudly.

 

Sometimes The Best Thing A Parent Can Say Is Nothing

Parents tell. It’s what we do. We have been on the planet longer than our kids so we think we know what they need and how they need it. Over-parenting – our parents did this. Their parents did this. It’s easy to see why it still happens.

And I’ll agree that there are times when telling is important. These include keeping our kids safe, developing a sense of right/wrong and values, and giving them some grounding in beliefs. We are their first line of defense, solution and encouragement – at least when they are young.

But as they grow I am more of an advocate of the mantra: stop telling, start asking. Asking engages our kids – it gets them involved in thinking about their perspectives, ideas, thoughts and values. It helps them become aware of what abilities they have – the tools they will rely on to make it through life.

Telling and over-parenting doesn’t help your kids

A critique of many educators is that parents tell and do too much for their kids. Over-parenting creates kids who are unable to solve, assess and think for themselves – their “superparents” swoop in to help them with homework, activities, decisions and most other things. We don’t do our kids any favors by trying to eliminate all the strife and challenge from their lives. We do a better service by training them how to solve what the world sends them – to tap into their abilities, use their brain and figure things out.

Sometimes our kids need us to say nothing

I think there is one more level of improved parenting. What if the best thing we could say as parents were nothing – to let our kids sort through the information all by themselves instead of with our continual guidance, commentary and input? Great that we move from telling to asking, but what if sometimes we just stopped all the talk to give them the attentive space, encouraging them with our presence and supportive body language, to let them work on their challenges on their own to develop resilience and awareness of their own success abilities.

See, many times our kids just need uninterrupted time to sort through their ideas – to listen to their own voice – to keep working uninterrupted in order to get it on their own. As parents, we seem either be uncomfortable watching them struggle or are not good with the quiet and we jump in to help them. Too much helping can make a problem for them in the future – they don’t learn how to stick with something, figure it out and rely on themselves. They can always request help, the way we can always say, “Give it another couple of minutes and see what you come up with.”

Sometimes being a great parent is letting them work through things and remaining quiet. We don’t have all the answers – or their answers. When we create the space for them to solve things on their own, they quickly learn that they are capable and do not need to default to parental aid. They don’t see this as an option if we always are guiding, commenting or telling them what to do.

What a gift we give our kids when we learn how to shift from telling to asking, and from asking to staying quiet – to allow them as they grow to handle the things in their lives. Sure, it takes time to decide which response is right. But I have learned that whatever your default behavior (most likely it is to tell), try to ask and try to just stay quiet. Notice it. Try it. See what happens. You will see your kids discover their talents and use them to build their confidence. This is what it takes to get them ready for life.

How You and Your Kids Can Live Significant and Successful Lives with Aaron Walker – RFL031

How You and Your Kids Can Live Significant and Successful Lives – Episode Overview

Many people call self-help, shelf-help – books that stay on the shelves but don’t really make that much of an impact. So today we talk about PRACTICAL personal development and growth. We know that as we discover, develop and live what is best in us – something that takes practice and learning – we live a greater version of ourselves. This does two amazing things. First it helps us become better parents, and secondly, we see the value in personal development so we can then guide, support and coach our kids into THEIR greater development.

Attention and Intention

This week, my attention is on what it takes to be a great parent. My intention is to share that developing ourselves is the key to becoming our best in all we do – particularly in our parenting – is the key to teaching our kids how to live significant and successful lives.

Meet our guest Aaron Walker

Aaron Walker on successful livesAaron T Walker, founder of View From the Top, is a guide who helps men discover and develop lives of success and significance through coaching, masterminds and resources that focus on their business, personal and spiritual lives. Over many years Aaron has written hundreds of blog posts, has interviewed and been interviewed by some of today’s smartest talent and has created powerful products to help you with your productivity, understanding yourself and directing your life in ways that truly matter.

IMPORTANT Free Offer from Aaron for you!

successful lives and the view from the topAaron has created a landing page for our listeners and on it has given you free access to three of his great resources:

  1.    Your personal assessment
  2.    What do I want (how to live intentionally)
  3.    Steps to a productive day

As someone who regularly inspires others to discover and live what is best in them, these resources will help you grow in your development and be clearer about what it means to live a successful and significant life. Click here for the link to the landing page or paste this link (www.viewfromthetop.com/yourkids) into your browser. Thank you Aaron!

Episode’s Key TakeAWays

  1. Significance is about seeing more than just yourself – it is about spending energy looking out more than in.
  2. Leadership values that drive leadership behaviors are: Excellence, Integrity, Resilience and Service. Being successful and significant in life comes from developing these values in ourselves and in our kids. We can’t help but show up successful and significant in life when we develop a focus on excellence, integrity, resilience and service.
  3. Parents can learn from coaches – to encourage, inspire and lift up our kids to tap into their inner abilities and use them to make their impact and mark on the world.
  4. The world has us convinced that success comes from having more possessions.
  5. The key to success – everywhere – is the development of relationships. Regularly check in on your kids – and others – just to show your interest. This helps them feel valuable and significant. As they learn this behavior from you, they then can do it for others.
  6. Aaron shares a great story of the present parent who really tunes in and listens to his son, takes the time to answer his question and really connects. Few things have such a great impact on our kids and on the quality of our parenting as our commitment to be present and responsive to our kids.
  7. We are unique, talented and amazing people independent of our parenting. It is important for us, to be great parents, to keep working on being a great person – being the best version of ourselves.
  8. Stop telling, start asking – spend more time asking than telling your kids. As you ask, you activate their growth and thinking. You help them tune in, learn and tap into their greatest abilities. This helps them determine how to be successful in today’s world.

Some question for parents:

  1. What message do you share with your kids about what success and significance means? How are you their go-to source to help them define this than to use what the world defines?
  2. How are you intentionally supporting and uplifting your kids – what things are you doing to ensure your kids always feel significant?
  3. When was the last time you spent time on developing yourself – of ensuring you are always learning and growing – to be sure you are living a life of success and significance?
  4. When was the last time you asked your kids how you are doing as a parent – not about giving them things – but about showing them that they are valuable, important and precious to you?

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Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1. Stop and Notice how you make your kids feel significant in your life. What needs improving?
  2. Stop and Notice what you do in your own learning and growing to help you feel significant in your own life. What investment do you make in yourself to be your best – to be able to be the best parent you can be?
  3. Stop and Notice what lessons you are sharing with your kids on how to be successful and significant in life. What values are you teaching your kids that help them focus outward as well as inward to have a balanced life?

We are our kids’ guides, support and coaches – to help them learn about themselves, learn about their world and how to build a life of success and significance. What matters most to them is feeling important, valuable and significant in our lives. Make time for them. Guide them and what they learn from you, they will use to build their lives of success and significance.

Suggested Resource:

The Path To Purpose – Helping Our Kids Find Their Calling In Life – by William Damon

Successful Lives and The Path To Purpose(Outstanding book!) Drawing on the revelatory results of a landmark study, William Damon — one of the country’s leading writers on the lives of young people, whose book Greater Expectations won the Parents’ Choice Award — brilliantly investigates the most pressing issue in the lives of youth today: why so many young people are “failing to launch” — living at home longer, lacking career motivation, struggling to make a timely transition into adulthood, and not yet finding a life pursuit that inspires them.

His groundbreaking study shows that about one-fifth of youth today are thriving — highly engaged in activities they love and developing a clear sense of what they want to do with their lives — but approximately one-fourth are still rudderless, at serious risk of never fulfilling their potential. The largest portion are teetering on the brink, in need of guidance to help them move forward: some are “dabblers” who pursue strings of disconnected interests with no real commitment; others, “dreamers” who have no realistic plans or understanding of what success will require.

What makes the difference? Damon shows that the key ingredient for the highly engaged is that they have developed a clear sense of purpose in their lives that motivates them and gives them direction. Based on in-depth interviews, he takes readers inside the minds of the disengaged and drifting kids and exposes their confusion and anxiety about what they should do with their lives. He then offers compelling portraits of the young people who are thriving and identifies the nine key factors that have made the difference for them, presenting simple but powerful methods that parents and all adults can and must employ in order to cultivate that energized sense of purpose in young people that will launch them on the path to a deeply satisfying and productive life.

 

What is A Parent’s True Job, with Dr. Scott Trettenero – RFL026

What Is A Parent’s True Job? – Episode Overview

What is our job as a parent? What is the most important task we have? We’ll hear today that it is to guide, support and coach our kids into discovering, developing and living who they really are. To help them be authentic – to help them build their lives around what they do best. This is complicated. Most of us don’t know who we are. Even more of us are too influenced by what the world says we should be. So how can we help our kids with this? They need someone who can walk with them as a guide to figure themselves out and how they fit in today’s world. They need their parents.

Attention and Intention

This week, my attention is on modern parenting. And my intention is to share new perspectives of how to show up differently to our kids to help them become who they really are and to live their potential.

Meet our guest Dr Scott Trettenero

Dr. Scott Trettenero discussing a parent's true jobDr. Scott Trettenero is a popular S Florida dentist, philosopher, student of human nature and parent of 2. He uses his expansive understanding of who we are and how we connect to our inner greatness to guide his interactions with his family, colleagues, friends and patients. He is the author of the profound book, Master The Mystery of Human Nature.

Episode’s Key TakeAWays

  1. Great parents are guides, support and coaches for their kids – to help them discover who they really are and to help the learn how to build their lives around what they do best. Our greatest role is to help our kids discover, develop and live who they really are.
  2. The best we can be for our kids is authentic – it gives them permission to be the same.
  3. Awareness is the key to discovering how each of your kids is different.
  4. Learning to see and appreciate our differences means our differences don’t need to separate us, but rather teach us how to appreciate everyone and that different is how we each get to do life.
  5. Many times our kids have competing definitions from us of what happiness and success means. It is our responsibility to help them show up to who they are, not who we need them be.
  6. Nurture and support your kid’s uniqueness, don’t try to parent it out of them.
  7. 70% of people are disengaged in their jobs – much of it happens because we don’t help our kids discover who they are and then show up to places in work and life that fit them. It is hard to be engaged in things that you aren’t good at or don’t have any interest in.
  8. Share this quote with your kids: “Your purpose in life is where your greatest joy meets the world greatest need.” Help them discover what gives them great joy and investigate their world with them for the places that connect their greatest joy to the world’s needs. This creates opportunity.
  9. We have a moral obligation to deliver to the world the gifts we came packaged with – to make our world better. How can you do this and how can you help your kids learn how to do this?
  10. Our kids teach us as much as we teach them. Are we always open to their lessons?
  11. Kids remind us of what we forgot – how to be authentic, true and present.
  12. Rethink the phrase, “Because I said so.” It takes all of the learning of the moment away. Instead, talk through situations so kids learn and understand. “Because I said so” is a lazy way out of parenting.

Some question for parents:

  1. What do you think your most important job is as a parent?
  2. In what ways do you see each of your kids as just right as they are?
  3. In what ways do you try to change your kids from who they are to who you want them to be?
  4. How do you make your interactions with your kids learning events for you?
  5. How are you showing up authentic and inspiring your kids to do the same?
  6. How often do you say to your kids – “Because I said so?”

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Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1. Stop and Notice what is unique and different about each of your kids. How are you celebrating and encouraging their uniqueness?
  2. Stop and Notice how authentic you are. Do you live as who you really are or are you more influenced by the voices and situations around you – what do you think this tells your kids?
  3. Stop and Notice how you teach and learn from your kids. In what ways can you be more open to learning from your kids?
  4. Stop and Notice how often you tell instead of ask your kids. Telling takes away their ability to think. Asking invites them to sort through their feelings, thoughts and behaviors.

Our greatest job is to help our kids discover, develop and live who they really are – not as little versions of us – but as who they are created to be. Tuning in to them is how you can discover this and how you can help them see that who they are is just right.

Suggested Resource:

Master The Mystery of Human Nature By D. Scott Trettenero

Book coverLife is a mystery, on planet Earth, where the billions of people live their lives day to day, most not knowing what their purpose is. We can’t figure out life’s answers because some of us don’t even know the questions to ask. It can be so confusing—sometimes even a bit maddening. In Master the Mystery of Human Nature, author D. Scott Trettenero tackles the vast and mysterious subject of human nature and unravels its secrets to give you clarity and a depth of understanding to some of the previously unanswered questions of life.

He has translated the important, yet complex work of philosophers, psychologists, scientists, and other pioneers in this field into an easy-to-understand format with ideas that can be applied to everyday life. Trettenero has taken the essential aspects of their work, simplified it, and has created a new matrix that connects the dots to better explain how and why people do what they do.

Master the Mystery of Human Nature helps you learn about yourself, others, and how the world works because of our differences. Conflicts will take on an entirely new meaning; things that used to be a mystery, will make sense. It will help you experience a sense of calm and freedom once you see the beauty and wonder of how our human nature reflects the balance of power in Nature and the ways that duality shapes our every experience on this earth. This resource can help parents see themselves and their kids differently – improving their connection, honesty and relationships.

Do You Focus On Failure More Than Success?

I have a question for you – what are you good at? With this blog’s focus on parenting, I could rephrase it to ask, what makes you a good parent?

You know what would be easier questions – what are you NOT good at – and how are you NOT a great parent? See, our world is quick to point out what it thinks is wrong with us. We know the answers to these more than to the earlier questions.

We focus on failure

In fact, this focus on failure is so prevalent that it now frames much of how we think. In the workplace, the annual review rarely starts with your successes – it jumps to your weaknesses and failures. At home, if you were to track what you say to your kids for just one day, your would see that most of it would likely be critical or corrective. We are just in the mindset that we are here to notice and fix our and their weaknesses and failures – and that we do others in our lives a great service when we point these out to them.

So here’s the problem. This creates a pretty critical vocabulary in our conversation with ourselves and others. Since what we focus on grows, the more we tune in to what isn’t right, the more we see what isn’t right and we miss what is right. We miss the opportunities to applaud successes, encourage effort, support discovery and inspire engagement. We are cheap with praise – with ourselves and with others.

Don’t try this but it makes my point

Let me share a workplace story that has application everywhere. In one of my roles during my career, I headed up an education department for a great company. My department took off – it took on great challenges, built sound education and changed many employees. Not once in the couple of years it took to do all this did my manager ever say “Thank you,” “Good job,” or “Nice going.” Frustrated, I delivered what could only be known as a career limiting move, when I said to my manager (okay – I don’t recommend this), “I think you have only 5 thank yous left in you before you die and you are afraid to waste one on me….” Well, I didn’t lose my job, but I did hear a little about respect. I earned that one.

But the meaning was that it didn’t occur to my manager to notice our successes – his mindset was that if things are working fine, that is how they should be – and no comment is necessary; he believed he should only watch for failures and challenges. With this thinking, he missed the successes – the things that we should always do more of. Remember this: what gets noticed and applauded, gets repeated.

Watch for successes

So, what are you great at and how are you a great parent? And since we are talking about this, how are you helping your kids focus on what they are great at, instead of regularly reminding them of what isn’t quite right about them?

Each of us is a work in process; we learn as we go. That learning should include learning about our successes, not just our failures. Our constant focus on failures and fixing weaknesses becomes the negative yack we play in our heads, and someday, it becomes the way our kids parent their kids – fix, correct, improve, find the negative, find the faults. Blah, blah, blah. Who can blame our kids for not listening to us if this is the primary communication they get from us?

This doesn’t mean only give your kids praise – you know, the “every kid gets a trophy” syndrome. It does however remind us that life is about learning – building on the successes AND learning from the failures. Both teach us about us and our kids. We should regularly notice and applaud true and legitimate successes with the same energy we focus on correcting weaknesses. This will set up both you and your kids to be able to answer the question, “What am I really good at?” And with that information, you’ll both know how to be ready for life.

Be Unstoppable, With Justin Browning RFL002

Be Unstoppable: Episode Overview

Justin Browning, educator and athletic director at Linn Middle/High School in Linn, MO, shares with Ready4Life host, Jay Forte, how his rough start growing up in a housing project with few options, taught him to be resilient in the face of challenge and inspired him to be accountable for his own life. Its an empowering story of getting to college, completing a masters degree and coming back to schools to inspire the next generation to succeed. We learn from his road and his advice for both students and parents.

Highlights

Be Unstoppable, With Justin BrowningJustin Browning is a powerhouse in his school, not just in is 6’ 5’’ football player frame, but in his sincere and powerful connection with all of the students in his school. Growing up in a housing project taught Justin to dig deep and be resilient and determined. He offers this guidance throughout our conversation to today’s young adults – that no matter how tough things seem, stay focused on what you want and keep working at it. He challenges students to stand up for what they believe in and want in their lives and to never, never, never give up on a dream. Though it may be cliche to say this, Justin shows by the events in his life that resilience and determination, coupled with clarity, will bring you to the places that matter most to you.

Parents – how can you support this message with your kids?

The ‘Stop and Notice’ Challenge

This segment is about noticing your world – about stopping and noticing – about slowing down enough to intentionally see what is in front of you. Most of us don’t do this. This takes practice; this takes effort. We know that the more we practice at things, the better we become – it is the same with stopping and noticing. So, each week I’ll provide a Stop and Notice Challenge – to help you get better.

When you learn to be more intentional about what you notice, you have access to information you didn’t previously have – that information can give you greater clarity to help you make better decisions. Notice YOU. Notice YOUR WORLD. You’ll learn a lot about both.

This week’s ‘Stop and Notice’ Challenge:

  1. What is one thing that got your attention this week?
  2. When it got your attention – ask why – of all the things you could notice, why did this catch your attention?
  3. Now, with your attention, what new information did you get about you or your world. This is how to figure out how to find your fit.

Watch and listen each week for a new challenge to help you learn how to tune in and notice things in your world – it’s a great habit to have.

Notice ‘Hot Jobs’

Each week, I’ll share a job that caught my eye – a job that is growing in need and popularity. I’ll share some details about the job, like salary, education, core responsibilities and abilities needed to do the job well. You can then see whether it fits your abilities and your interests.

Ready4Life Hot JobsMobile App Developer

  • Average salary $94k
  • Required: minimum of a Bachelor’s Degree in software engineering, mobile app development, mobile computing or computer science.
  • Degrees can be earned either online or  on-campus.

There is a growing demand for this field which means there is a growing likelihood of required educational or experience certifications. Great performers in this field have the following core abilities (talents): they are methodical, creative, analytical, detail-oriented, results-focused, competent, observant, precise and careful. If this appeals, search out the locations that can get you ready for this job.

 

Be sure you connect your career aspirations with things you are both good at and passionate about. Focus on what fits you. Listen to your own voice.

Suggested Resources

In this episode, I introduce the great book by Barbara Sher tited, I Could Be Anything If I Just Knew What It Was. Though written in 1994, it is still just as relevant as she reminds us that choosing for ourselves requires that we know our abilities and interests. She presents a candid, no-nonsense and practical approach to learning how to figure out what in life is for you. At Ready4Life, we share her focus on discovering, developing and living your abilities and interests as the way to create your own happy and successful life. She, like Ready4Life offers specific steps in how to do it. Check out the book.

And be sure to review the 12 Entry Jobs with Big Earning Potential. This is a slideshow summary on the great Salary.com website.

Important Links:

  • All Groan Up – Paul Angone – Advice for surviving your 20s
  • Life After College – Jenny Blake – Live Big After College
  • Ask The Headhunter – Nick Corcodilos – Important information about getting a job
  • Campus to Career – Kirk Baumann – practical information to move into the job market
  • Sumry – Nate Hanson – Land your dream job

Key People To Follow:

  • Tom V Morris – Philosopher, Consultant to Fortune 100 companies, wise man
  • Britt Hysen – Editor in Chief of MiLLENiAL – lifestyle and cultural magazine highlighting millennials’ contribution to today’s world.

Download our Ready4Life Navigation Guide – it will explain how to use our  Ready4Life GPS – to connect you to the tools to know yourself, know your world so you can find your fit.

 

How To Succeed With Challenges

Sometimes life seems to be too much. Relationships fall apart. We get sick. We fail at something at school. We get embarrassed. Life seems so unfair.

Actually, life just is – you interpret it as either fair or unfair

You can, however, get very affected by the events and situations of life. They can wear you down and trip you up – and make it difficult to land on your feet and keep going.

Without some tips on how not to let life’s events overwhelm you, you’ll just play the negative news over and over in your head. Pretty soon it goes so loud in there that you just can’t stand it. This is how life’s little events turn into big events, and big events never leave. They control the volume and ensure they get your full attention.

Between the technology and a busy life, you don’t ever get a chance to quiet things down. There is always some texting, calling, emailing or tweeting. There is always someone telling you do this, don’t do that, go here, don’t go there. Sure this is part of being in our world but for you to ever make sense of the events of your life, you’ll need to create some limits.

3 Tips to help you succeed with challenges

  1. Tune out to tune in. Tune out of your noisy, pushy and loud world to tune in to you. Build in some time each disconnected from technology and your world. Find a place to walk, sit, meditate, close your eyes, connect with nature – do something that allows you to spend quiet time with you. In creating some boundaries in life, you will give yourself the time and space to sort out life’s challenges. You can’t do this if you have the world and technology blaring in your ear every moment.
  2. Gather information. As life send you challenges, try to step out of them and look at them as an outsider. What information do you see? What options and opportunities come to light when you aren’t so involved and when you can see if more clearly, rationally, and calmly? You can see that before you can gather information, you really need to tune out.
  3. Make a plan. When you are clear, decide what you want to do and the first steps to get it done. Then go make it happen.

Notice, all of these are just ways to help you stay calm, gather information and use your best abilities to create a way to succeed with whatever life sends. Know you are braver, more talented and wiser that you sometimes think. Access this by taking the time, gathering information and building a plan. Go be great.