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How To Help Your Kids Learn to Think Like an Entrepreneur with Ally LoPrete – RFL032

How to Help Your Kids Learn To Think Like an Entrepreneur – Episode Overview

To think like an entrepreneur doesn’t mean you have to start a business. Rather, to think like an entrepreneur means you are someone who actively and intentionally watches your world for places to connect WITH what is best in you, to find your fit and to make your impact. Great entrepreneurs know themselves – what they are good at, passionate about and what matters to them – they know their world – they see its successes, needs and challenges – and they connect the two to create opportunities. Imagine if we were able to get ourselves and our kids to think this way – to go through life intentionally looking for, seeking out and creating opportunities to do what WE DO BEST. Think of the options and possibilities it would create for them AND for us…

Attention and Intention

This week, my attention is on how to help our kids (and ourselves) find our way in life – what fits us. My intention is that we learn to train ourselves to seek out, create and notice areas that need what we do best – so we can build lives of happiness, success and impact. In short to learn to think like an entrepreneur – to give ourselves options.

Meet our guest Ally LoPrete

Ally Loprete on how to think like an EntrepreneurAlly Loprete is a talented coach, speaker and is the host of this Little Parent Stayed Home, a radio program on iHeart Talk Radio, with a mission to bring 1 million parents home through self-employment and entrepreneurship. Known as the Work/Life Balance Parenting expert, she founded the widely popular OurMilkMoney.com, the largest online search directory for parents in the world. She is committed to helping all parents realize their greatness, and in the process, learn how to guide, support and coach their kids to do the same – to make their marks on life. High energy, focused and committed to doing amazing things, Ally is a role model for those needing to rekindle the energy to live life like it matters.

Episode’s Key TakeAWays

  1. Every moment provides the OPPORTUNITY to find the joy in life and in being the parent. We just have to choose to see it.
  2. To think like an entrepreneur doesn’t mean you have to start a business. To think like an entrepreneur means you know yourself, know your world and now how to find the opportunities in your world that fit you and your best abilities. Entrepreneurs are always looking for ways to do what they do best – they see things differently – they are opportunity hunters.
  3. Each of us has superhero qualities – we are great at some things (and not at others). When we find our thing, we start to see the opportunities related to it. This gives us clarity in starting to create our road in life – a road that lets us use our superhero abilities to show up big to all we do (note for parents – help your kids start to see and live their “superhero” abilities). Embrace what makes you and your kids different and unique as a way of creating clarity to find what in today’s world is for you (parents and kids).
  4. Opportunities are challenges and life lessons reframed in a positive light. Challenges can take us and our kids down – but by reframing challenges or obstacles into a conversation of seeing the OPPORTUNITY, trains our kids to be confident in handling what life sends them, knowing how to make something good out of whatever happens.
  5. Some people don’t like us when we shine – when we find and do our “thing.” Just be aware and don’t let others stop you from seeing and developing opportunities that are clear for you.
  6. Opportunities help us see what environments light up for us. Opportunities pull us in specific directions. If we see no opportunities, that generally means we are in an area that is not for us. This gives us clarity.
  7. We have to remember that each of our kids is different and the opportunities that will matter to each will likely be different. There is no one-size-fits-all parenting or no one-size-fits-all opportunity. Take the time to help each kid seek out, create or find their opportunities. What do your kids get pulled to or are interested in – these are places for opportunities.
  8. Life is filled with opportunities. Most of them we miss because we focus more on the challenges than the opportunities. As we become more like entrepreneurs in the way we think – always looking for the opportunity in what happens – we share with ourselves and our kids a world of possibilities. In these possibilities, we each will find our thing – our place – our way to show up big to our lives

Some question for parents:

  1. What message do you share with your kids about welcoming and using challenges to find opportunities?
  2. How do you help your kids learn to see things differently – to see the opportunity in things that others can’t see?
  3. How do you stay supportive as kids start to discover their abilities and opportunities?
  4. Parenting is a big job and big responsibility – what do you do each day to help yourself feel valuable, important and living life fully?
  5. How do you pay attention well enough in this moment to hunt for the opportunity to make this moment great?

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Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1. Stop and Notice how you look at life challenges – do you see the negative or do you see opportunity?
  2. Stop and Notice how you help your kids hunt for opportunities. How are you helping them learn how to think like an entrepreneur?
  3. Stop and Notice what makes your kid unique, different and amazing. How are you helping him see this and use this to start to identify the opportunities that fit him?
  4. Stop and Notice how you take care of yourself. How can you be great as a parent if you are not feeling valuable, important and relevant as a person? What opportunities do you have or make to take care of yourself?

Life is filled with opportunities. Most of them we miss because we focus more on the challenges than the opportunities. As we become more like entrepreneurs in the way we think – always looking for the opportunity in whatever happens – then we share with ourselves and our kids a world of possibilities. In these possibilities, we each will find our thing – our place – our way to show up big to our lives.

Suggested Resource:

You Are Here - So Think Like An EntrepreneurYou Are Here – Discovering the Magic of the Present Moment – by Thich Nhat Hanh

In this book Thich Nhat Hanh, the renowned Zen monk, author, and meditation master, distills the essence of Buddhist thought and practice, emphasizing the power of mindfulness to transform our lives. “Mindfulness is not an evasion or an escape,” he explains. “It means being here, present, and totally alive. It is true freedom—and without this freedom, there is no happiness.”

Based on a retreat that Thich Nhat Hanh led for Westerners, this book offers a range of simple, effective practices for cultivating mindfulness, including awareness of breathing and walking, deep listening, and skillful speech. You Are Here also offers guidance on healing emotional pain and manifesting real love and compassion in our relationships with others.

How To Help Your Kids Discover Their Inner Superhero, with Bolaji O – RFL024

How To Help Your Kids Discover Their Inner Superhero – Episode Overview

Each of us has amazing abilities – super abilities – our “inner-awesome.” So remember, a superhero has exceptional UNIQUE abilities that he or she uses to MAKE A DIFFERENCE in the world. You have that. Your kids have that. Do we see it in ourselves? Do we see it in our kids? How can we discover it and bring it into our everyday lives?

Attention and Intention

This week, my attention is on what is awesome, amazing and unique in each of us. And my intention is to share ways for us to discover and live this, and to guide support and coach our kids into discovering and living their inner-awesome. Imagine the lives they would have and the world we would create.

Meet our guest Bolaji Oyejide (Bolaji O)

Bolagi OBolaji O is a 7-time best selling author, podcaster, award-winning speaker, parent extraordinaire of 2 boys and an all around amazing person. He is committed to helping all of us discover our inner superhero, and challenges us to actively live our amazing abilities. He has been on almost every network and is author of the wonderful Brave Little Heroes books, helping kids find their inner-awesome and show up big to their lives. Learn more about this “super” person at the following links:

Episode’s Key TakeAWays

  1. We each have an origin story – a way to share who we are. When we share our stories with our kids, they see how to craft an origin story and to start to see what is possible for their own lives.
  2. We each have unique abilities that show up in the way we see the world. We tune in to the things we are both good at and passionate about. As our kids start to notice this in themselves, they are sharing this information with us. This is important to know as we guide, support and coach them to use what they discover and share to make great work and life decisions.
  3. Parents are not their children’s owners – they are their children’s life traveling partners – their role is to walk with their kids to help them decipher and discover their world and where their place in it can be.
  4. Use this quote by Buckminster Fuller to help your kids discover what is great in them and use it in life: “What is it on this planet that needs doing that I know something about that probably won’t happen unless I take responsibility for it?” What do we know of ourselves and of our world, and how do we have the courage (think superhero) to take responsibility for doing our thing in our world?
  5. The Brave Little Heroes books share stories to help today’s kids see themselves in hero roles – that they have unique abilities that they can us to do good things in life.

Some question for parents:

  1. What are your superhero abilities – something you are great at that adds value to your world?
  2. For each of your kids, what are you starting to see as their unique or superhero abilities and how are you helping connect them to applications in today’s world?
  3. How are you sharing stories with your kids about you and about life?
  4. How are you making intentional time each day to teach your kids through stories and conversation?

Here’s the link to the article mentioned in the podcast: Bedtime Stories – How To Never Lose Their Magic

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Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  • Stop and Notice what is great, awesome and unique about you. How are you using this in your days?
  • Stop and Notice what is great, awesome and unique about each of your kids. How are you helping them incorporate this in their days?
  • Stop and Notice the stories you tell yourself – about you and about your life. How can you update and improve your stories?
  • Stop and Notice how you walk through life with your kids. Do you push and pull them, or walk with them as their life’s traveling partner, helping them see, decipher and understand themselves and their world?

We are each born with superhero abilities. Said another way, we each have unique and great abilities that when realized can make a difference in our world. Know yours. Help your kids know theirs. Hold them and yourself accountable to show up this way, each day, and to add value and make a difference in your world.

Suggested Resource

Grit to Great: How Perseverance, Passion, and Pluck Take You from Ordinary to Extraordinary By Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval

Grit to Great - Inner Superhero ResourceIn Grit to Great, Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval tackle a topic that is close to their hearts, one that they feel is the real secret to their own success in their careers–and in the careers of so many people they know and have met. And that is the incredible power of grit, perseverance, perspiration, determination, and sheer stick-to-it-tiveness. We are all dazzled by the notion that there are some people who get ahead, who reach the corner office because they are simply gifted, or well-connected, or both. But research shows that we far overvalue talent and intellectual ability in our culture. The fact is, so many people get ahead–even the gifted ones–because they worked incredibly hard, put in the thousands of hours of practice and extra sweat equity, and made their own luck. And Linda and Robin should know–they are two girls from the Bronx who had no special advantages or privileges and rose up through their own hard work and relentless drive to succeed to the top of their highly competitive profession.

In a book illustrated with a cornucopia of stories and the latest research on success, the authors reveal the strategies that helped them, and countless others, succeed at the highest levels in their careers and professions, and in their personal lives. They talk about the guts–the courage–necessary to take on tough challenges and not give up at the first sign of difficulty. They discuss the essential quality of resiliency. Everyone suffers setbacks in their careers and in life. The key, however, is to pick yourself up and bounce back. Drawing on the latest research in positive psychology, they discuss why optimists do better in school, work, and on the playing field–and how to reset that optimistic set point. They talk about industriousness, the notion that Malcolm Gladwell popularized with the 10,000-hour rule in his book Outliers. Creativity theorist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi believes it takes a minimum of 10 years for one’s true creative potential to be realized. And the authors explore the concept of tenacity–the quality that allows us to remain focused and avoid distraction in order to get the job done–an increasingly difficult task in today’s fragmented, cluttered, high-tech, connected world.

Focus On Being Your Best – How To Talk To Your Kids About Passion and Potential, with Julie Kleinhans – RFL023

Focus on Being Your Best – How To Talk To Your Kids About Passion and Potential – Episode Overview

I shared this wisdom with my three daughters: Don’t worry about being THE best, focus instead on being YOUR best. Sometimes being the best still doesn’t even come close to tapping into your greatness – your potential. We can get distracted from developing our own greatest abilities by focusing on what others are doing. Potential is personal. And it is the way we see what is possible for us in life.

Attention and Intention

This week, my attention is on great parenting. This week, my attention is on potential – on living our greatest abilities. My intention is that we learn how to talk to our kids about focusing more on their potential than on the terms best, winner or victory. With this mindset, they have room to soar, to move in their unique way and to see the possibilities for their lives.

Meet our guest Julie Kleinhans

being your best with Julie kleinhansJulie Kleinhans is a Youth Empowerment and Education Mentor who believes every child is intelligent and talented. She works with educators and parents to help today’s youth become productive, confident and happy. Julie is the Founder of Mind Focus Generation, a community for parents, teachers, counselors and practitioners who want to empower youth, and the Founder and Host of the Successful Kids Revolution, a global online event whose mission is “ensuring success for every child at home and in our schools.” Find out more about this amazing and inspiring person, committed to helping our next generation succeed, at the following links:

Episode’s Key TakeAWays

  1. Notice and follow your passions and abilities. They create a smoother road in life. When these are ignored, we struggle through our work, relationships and life.
  2. Watch for the places that create resistance – these are putting the lid on our potential. Tune in and notice these so that you can make changes.
  3. The traditional school model teaches students to blend and fit in instead of to develop their unique abilities and inner greatness. This means that we have to do this work for ourselves – that parents have a critical role in helping their kids navigate life in a meaningful way – one that uses their greatest abilities and aligns to who they are. Knowing this helps parents know how to support their kids based on the messaging they are getting in school.
  4. There is a great difference between making a living (what we are taught in school) and following our life’s purpose. Our success is always greater (though not always in the world’s standards) when we connect with our potential and follow our purpose.
  5. Passions are our guideposts – they show us what lights up for us; they fuel our greatest effort. They give us great indications of where we fit in today’s world. They say – “land here, show up here, this is for you.”
  6. Parents’ core purpose is to help their kids discover, develop and live what is best in them – to know themselves, know their world and find their fit.
  7. It takes courage to talk about passion and potential. A primary responsibility of parenting is to help our kids discover and use their own voice – to make choices that fit who they are.
  8. We know ourselves better than others know us. It is our responsibility to do the work to connect what we do best with the places in our world that need what we are best at. Or, as is quoted by Frederick Buechner, “Your vocation in life is where your greatest joy meets the world’s greatest need.”
  9. Parents have to challenge the current go-to-school-and-blend system – and to help their kids learn to discover who they are and to stand out in what is greatest and best in them.
  10. Most of us live part or a lot of our lives (hiding) in the closet – about something. We hide some part of us because we use the world as a guide to determine what is valuable and important. If we do not align to that view, we hide the very things that are important to us. Help your kids come out of their closets and not hide any part of who they are. They can’t live their potential if they hide any part of who they are. Help them embrace who they are and be proud (listen to the podcast with identity coach Rich Clemons)

Some question for parents:

  1. How are you helping your kids identify their passions and potential?
  2. How you are living your passions and potential?
  3. What are you hiding that is keeping you small; what are your kids hiding that is keeping them small?
  4. How do you talk to your kids about potential and creating a life they love?
  5. How are you being authentic and inauthentic – can you notice the difference and see how each makes you feel?
  6. How are you helping your kids learn how to see what is unique and amazing in them – so they can be confident in themselves as they approach each day?

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Stop and Notice Challenge

Each week we ask you to stop and notice – to develop your skill of tuning in to you and your world. This week’s stop and notice challenge is:

  1.    Stop and Notice whether you encourage your kids to live their dreams and be who they are, or to follow what others do. How can you change this?
  2.    Stop and Notice when your kids are passionate about something. What does this tell you about them, and what does it tell them about themselves?
  3.    Stop and Notice if you are blandly going through life, and what example this shares with your kids. What can you do to change one thing to be more connected to your passions?
  4.    Stop and Notice if your push your kids to be THE best or THEIR best. How will you help your kids focus on what is best in them?

Passions and potential are two words we should regularly talk with our kids about. Discovering their passions will clue them into their potential and their purpose. And living a life from this focus, instead of just getting a job and living like everyone else, can help your kids develop happy, successful and responsible lives.

Suggested Resource – The Successful Kids Revolution TeleSummit

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Julie hosts the Successful Kids Revolutions Telesummit – an annual event that brings the best parenting speakers, thought leaders and innovators into your personal space to share great ideas of how to create success environments for all of our kids.
Her new summit is coming in 2016; click here for the link to her summit in 2015 that had 24 remarkable experts – from the well known to the brilliant – all focused on helping our next generation live their potential and show up big to their lives.

Tune in to Julie for great information to help you know how to help your kids be ready for life.